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Wed Nov 3, 2010 5:54:50 pm
I dislike that that my gf doesn't tell me what she wants. Whether or not she wants me to kiss her or not. How do you solve a problem of bad communication in a relationship?
Wed Nov 3, 2010 6:11:25 pm
Have you tried asking her directly?
Wed Nov 3, 2010 6:32:02 pm
If I had to tell my bf every time I wanted to be kissed, he wouldn't be my bf for long...
That being said, J used to sit me down and not let me leave until we "talked" about whatever it was he felt we needed to talk about. This could sometimes take hours, but I eventually learned how to communicate what I was feeling a lot faster after a few times of that.
Wed Nov 3, 2010 6:35:53 pm
re: comment#2
If I had to tell my bf every time I wanted to be kissed, he wouldn't be my bf for long...
That being said, J used to sit me down and not let me leave until we "talked" about whatever it was he felt we needed to talk about. This could sometimes take hours, but I eventually learned how to communicate what I was feeling a lot faster after a few times of that.
I would never go back to someone who is so insistent on talking about things. Sometimes I don't want to talk or I haven't thought it through enough to know what to say.That being said, J used to sit me down and not let me leave until we "talked" about whatever it was he felt we needed to talk about. This could sometimes take hours, but I eventually learned how to communicate what I was feeling a lot faster after a few times of that.
Wed Nov 3, 2010 6:46:52 pm
re: comment#3
I would never go back to someone who is so insistent on talking about things. Sometimes I don't want to talk or I haven't thought it through enough to know what to say.
That's what I told him--I needed time to think about what I felt and I would get back to him. He was smart enough to know that I would never actually get back with him, so he told me he would wait while I gathered my thoughts. Like I said, he waited hours. As annoying and painful as it was for me to go through something like that where I was forced to share what I was feeling, it really was better in the long run. Plus, it has helped me become a better communicator. I am still a long way off, but baby steps. It's something I have wanted to work at for a while.
Wed Nov 3, 2010 6:48:00 pm
re: comment#4
That's what I told him--I needed time to think about what I felt and I would get back to him. He was smart enough to know that I would never actually get back with him, so he told me he would wait while I gathered my thoughts. Like I said, he waited hours.
As annoying and painful as it was for me to go through something like that where I was forced to share what I was feeling, it really was better in the long run. Plus, it has helped me become a better communicator. I am still a long way off, but baby steps. It's something I have wanted to work at for a while.
Seems like stalker/psycho mentality to hold you there.As annoying and painful as it was for me to go through something like that where I was forced to share what I was feeling, it really was better in the long run. Plus, it has helped me become a better communicator. I am still a long way off, but baby steps. It's something I have wanted to work at for a while.
Wed Nov 3, 2010 6:48:29 pm
re: comment#5
Seems like stalker/psycho mentality to hold you there.
But you might like that.Wed Nov 3, 2010 6:54:01 pm
re: comment#5
Seems like stalker/psycho mentality to hold you there.
haha, you're so funny. It's not like he tied me up. If I really wanted to go I could have. It was actually at my place, so maybe the better way of saying it was that he wasn't going anywhere until I talked. It wasn't a negative thing in the least. Even at the time I knew it was good that we were doing this--it was just the first time someone actually made me talk about what was going on. no image
8) deleted, Wed Nov 3, 2010 8:37:30 pm
re: comment#2
If I had to tell my bf every time I wanted to be kissed, he wouldn't be my bf for long...
That being said, J used to sit me down and not let me leave until we "talked" about whatever it was he felt we needed to talk about. This could sometimes take hours, but I eventually learned how to communicate what I was feeling a lot faster after a few times of that.
He must have really really liked you to have done that. That being said, J used to sit me down and not let me leave until we "talked" about whatever it was he felt we needed to talk about. This could sometimes take hours, but I eventually learned how to communicate what I was feeling a lot faster after a few times of that.
:)
Everyone who wants should have someone like that.
Thu Nov 4, 2010 2:02:33 am
re: comment#8
He must have really really liked you to have done that.
:)
Everyone who wants should have someone like that.
Yeah, he did. He does. He's just great like that...he's the type that can just read a person and knows what they need. What buttons to push to motivate. I love it.:)
Everyone who wants should have someone like that.
Thu Nov 4, 2010 2:54:00 am
re: comment#10
Yeah, he did. He does. He's just great like that...he's the type that can just read a person and knows what they need. What buttons to push to motivate. I love it.
This is good.Thu Nov 4, 2010 2:56:23 am
re: comment#12
This is good.
Definitely. Esp. for a person like me. I close down instead of communicate, which is not exactly a good thing! ;-)