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Mon Dec 27, 2010 4:48:17 pm
My family never openly expresses affection, but we care about each other's well-being. My sister called on Christmas Eve. Neither of said "Merry Christmas", although we discussed Christmas and religion from an intellectual perspective. Her excuse for calling was to ask about why Metamucil tastes like a drink that our mother occasionally prepared for us when we were young. It was clear that she just wanted to talk. She called again today to ask about cooking oils. I think she was just really checking to see if I was OK.
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1) sweetjoy, Mon Dec 27, 2010 4:50:58 pm
That's sweet. Why would she be checking to see if you were ok? Do you ever call your sister?
Mon Dec 27, 2010 4:52:09 pm
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That's sweet. Why would she be checking to see if you were ok? Do you ever call your sister?
Very heavy snow.I probably called her less than 10 times ever.
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3) sweetjoy, Mon Dec 27, 2010 4:53:42 pm
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Very heavy snow.
I probably called her less than 10 times ever.
Oh right. Way for me to miss THAT connection. Sheesh. I probably called her less than 10 times ever.
I never call my siblings, either.
Mon Dec 27, 2010 4:56:03 pm
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Oh right. Way for me to miss THAT connection. Sheesh.
I never call my siblings, either.
The sister mentioned in this post is the only sibling who ever calls for non-critical things. My brother has only called me twice. Both were for coordinating our family gathering after our father died.I never call my siblings, either.
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5) sweetjoy, Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:00:44 pm
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The sister mentioned in this post is the only sibling who ever calls for non-critical things. My brother has only called me twice. Both were for coordinating our family gathering after our father died.
I almost don't understand the families where the siblings are super close--esp. if it's males and females. I find it a little unsettling to see them hugging on each other excessively. In hs there was one brother and sister who would cuddle on the couch--they weren't doing it in a sexual fashion, but...you just don't cuddle with your brother. I'll lay my head on my sisters' shoulder sometimes, but I never cuddle with them.
Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:01:42 pm
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I almost don't understand the families where the siblings are super close--esp. if it's males and females. I find it a little unsettling to see them hugging on each other excessively. In hs there was one brother and sister who would cuddle on the couch--they weren't doing it in a sexual fashion, but...you just don't cuddle with your brother.
I'll lay my head on my sisters' shoulder sometimes, but I never cuddle with them.
I have never cuddled, hugged, or kissed a family member.I'll lay my head on my sisters' shoulder sometimes, but I never cuddle with them.
Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:02:05 pm
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I have never cuddled, hugged, or kissed a family member.
And incidental physical contact is extremely rare.no image
8) sweetjoy, Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:09:51 pm
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I have never cuddled, hugged, or kissed a family member.
I have hugged most, kissed on the cheek a few, and really cuddled none.Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:13:33 pm
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I have hugged most, kissed on the cheek a few, and really cuddled none.
I expected some cuddling.no image
10) sweetjoy, Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:15:58 pm
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I expected some cuddling.
not real cuddling... why would you expect some? (my siblings. I cuddle with most of my friends.)Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:19:58 pm
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not real cuddling... why would you expect some? (my siblings. I cuddle with most of my friends.)
I just expect you to like cuddling.
Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:20:32 pm
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I have never cuddled, hugged, or kissed a family member.
you know, the only family member with whom physical afffection is awkward for me is my mother. i can not see her for months or years and she won't even greet me with a hug. it is weird. i'm okay with it now though. i think i understand why she is like that, too.Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:22:29 pm
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you know, the only family member with whom physical afffection is awkward for me is my mother. i can not see her for months or years and she won't even greet me with a hug. it is weird. i'm okay with it now though. i think i understand why she is like that, too.
My entire family is like your mother.no image
14) sweetjoy, Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:23:35 pm
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I just expect you to like cuddling.
Once I pass a certain level of closeness and trust with a person, I love to cuddle. Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:24:07 pm
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Once I pass a certain level of closeness and trust with a person, I love to cuddle.
And you don't have closeness and trust with family?no image
16) sweetjoy, Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:25:02 pm
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And you don't have closeness and trust with family?
I trust them but I am not close with them. That, and my family is the opposite at showing affection. Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:26:24 pm
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I trust them but I am not close with them. That, and my family is the opposite at showing affection.
Opposite of what? Opposite of how you show affection?no image
18) sweetjoy, Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:28:16 pm
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Opposite of what? Opposite of how you show affection?
Compared to the people who show affection, my parents are the opposite of it. They rarely hugged or kissed us when we were little. They show their love other ways. Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:29:34 pm
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Compared to the people who show affection, my parents are the opposite of it. They rarely hugged or kissed us when we were little. They show their love other ways.
Rarely means it has happened? My parents never hugged or kissed us.no image
20) sweetjoy, Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:30:40 pm
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Rarely means it has happened? My parents never hugged or kissed us.
sometimes but it was rare. we would initiate.