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Wed Apr 13, 2011 3:54:07 pm
My brother's wife gave birth this morning. Unlike last time, my brother did not call me. He also did not send me a private message. He only posted updates on Facebook. This is somewhat reminiscent of the email that he sent to inform me that he had gotten engaged. The body of the message was:
Your new sister in law.
That was the entire message and a photo of her was attached. This time, it's even more impersonal.
I had assumed that I would be obligated to escort my mother to the hospital to see the new child, because I had to do that last time. Since my brother did not contact me directly this time, I am not sure if I am still expected to do this. For now, I will pretend that I did not see his Facebook updates.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 4:22:17 pm
That is probably a good approach under the circumstances.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 4:23:38 pm
agrees with: comment#1
That is probably a good approach under the circumstances.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 4:31:20 pm
Good. It means he took the hint.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 5:08:50 pm
good plan.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 5:10:51 pm
It isn't a good plan.
You need to call him and say your greetings. You are bonded to them. You even need to visit, but I guess it would be hoping too much from you.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 5:11:30 pm
re: comment#6
It isn't a good plan.
You need to call him and say your greetings. You are bonded to them. You even need to visit, but I guess it would be hoping too much from you.
I will see him on Saturday for a mandatory family gathering.You need to call him and say your greetings. You are bonded to them. You even need to visit, but I guess it would be hoping too much from you.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 5:54:08 pm
re: comment#7
I will see him on Saturday for a mandatory family gathering.
good.You attend to family gatherings. Interesting.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:05:13 pm
re: comment#8
good.
You attend to family gatherings. Interesting.
I do it to avoid incessant complaints and heightened animosity.You attend to family gatherings. Interesting.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:12:06 pm
disagrees with: comment#6
It isn't a good plan.
You need to call him and say your greetings. You are bonded to them. You even need to visit, but I guess it would be hoping too much from you.
You need to call him and say your greetings. You are bonded to them. You even need to visit, but I guess it would be hoping too much from you.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:16:14 pm
re: comment#10
I value family relations. It makes a person actually feel better when they do something nice for their family.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:18:06 pm
re: comment#11
I value family relations. It makes a person actually feel better when they do something nice for their family.
i understand that. but you don't know erdos or his family or his relationship with his family. you are projecting your values onto him. it doesn't make a person feel better to do nice things for people (family or not) when those people consistently ignore and disregard you.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:19:29 pm
re: comment#12
i understand that. but you don't know erdos or his family or his relationship with his family. you are projecting your values onto him.
it doesn't make a person feel better to do nice things for people (family or not) when those people consistently ignore and disregard you.
i'm not saying erdos' family does this, necesarily. it's just an example and i should have made that clear!it doesn't make a person feel better to do nice things for people (family or not) when those people consistently ignore and disregard you.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:28:43 pm
re: comment#12
i understand that. but you don't know erdos or his family or his relationship with his family. you are projecting your values onto him.
it doesn't make a person feel better to do nice things for people (family or not) when those people consistently ignore and disregard you.
I know about many families. and I know his relationship with his family as much as everyone here, considering everyone learns them from his blogs. he also has family values and his family also has expectations from him no matter what. It doesn't matter how much you dislike them or you want to stay away from them, when certain things happen ( like births and deaths ) you have to be there. *I don't mean you*it doesn't make a person feel better to do nice things for people (family or not) when those people consistently ignore and disregard you.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:46:26 pm
re: comment#14
I know about many families. and I know his relationship with his family as much as everyone here, considering everyone learns them from his blogs. he also has family values and his family also has expectations from him no matter what. It doesn't matter how much you dislike them or you want to stay away from them, when certain things happen ( like births and deaths ) you have to be there. *I don't mean you*
maybe you know as much as those who have known erdos for 2+ years? idk. and i still disagree with you. if it's the case that your family treats you badly, you owe them no obligation to put yourself within their line of fire.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:47:01 pm
agrees with: comment#12
i understand that. but you don't know erdos or his family or his relationship with his family. you are projecting your values onto him.
it doesn't make a person feel better to do nice things for people (family or not) when those people consistently ignore and disregard you.
it doesn't make a person feel better to do nice things for people (family or not) when those people consistently ignore and disregard you.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:50:31 pm
re: comment#15
maybe you know as much as those who have known erdos for 2+ years? idk.
and i still disagree with you. if it's the case that your family treats you badly, you owe them no obligation to put yourself within their line of fire.
I think it is erdos who treats them badly because he had traumatic memories with them.and i still disagree with you. if it's the case that your family treats you badly, you owe them no obligation to put yourself within their line of fire.
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:51:18 pm
re: comment#15
maybe you know as much as those who have known erdos for 2+ years? idk.
and i still disagree with you. if it's the case that your family treats you badly, you owe them no obligation to put yourself within their line of fire.
and yes true. I just started to get to know him.and i still disagree with you. if it's the case that your family treats you badly, you owe them no obligation to put yourself within their line of fire.
*I'm thought my place now*
Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:52:00 pm
re: comment#14
I know about many families. and I know his relationship with his family as much as everyone here, considering everyone learns them from his blogs. he also has family values and his family also has expectations from him no matter what. It doesn't matter how much you dislike them or you want to stay away from them, when certain things happen ( like births and deaths ) you have to be there. *I don't mean you*
Your avoidance of art that is disturbing indicates the type of psychological defense that you use. You also avoid thinking/acknowledging the horribleness of the real world, which leads to a failure to fully understand how horrible the real world can be. You clearly do not understand how horrible my family relations can be. Your conclusions about what I should do with family are based on this failure to understand.Wed Apr 13, 2011 6:52:57 pm
re: comment#17
I think it is erdos who treats them badly because he had traumatic memories with them.
I treat them badly because they treat me badly first. Do you believe that I caused them to traumatize me?